Ease is a state of being

Hello sweet soul,

I'm grateful you've made it here!

I’ve been reflecting deeply, and I'd love to share with you one of the biggest lessons I’ve integrated as I worked through the autoimmune symptoms I used to experience.

It is this:

Ease is a state of being.

So is dis-ease. And it doesn't just affect the body - it shapes how we engage with life as a whole.

For example, I can write this post from a few different places:

1) The pressure or obligation of feeling like I should send something to stay visible.

2) The desire to serve and express what feels alive and true for me.

3) A mix of both (i.e. one part of me may feel pressured in some way even though I know I desire to serve and share).

The same can be applied to many different activities.

If I act from the pressure of what I "should" be doing or what result I "should" have, this is more energetically depleting. It also doesn't feel like ease or flow.

If I act from inspiration and overflow, this is more energetically fulfilling. This is because even if I'm expending energy, I'm also receiving from the enjoyment, truth, and fulfillment of what I'm sharing.

I want to explore this specifically through the lens of fatigue and anemia, as these are common experiences alongside autoimmune symptoms (and even among women in general) - and there is an important parallel here.

What I've seen, in both myself and the women I support, is that fatigue isn't always because we're doing too much - although sometimes this is true.

More often, we're fatigued because we've learned to live, help, care, and show up from pressure instead of truth.

This pressure is often what results in us doing things because we should - even if it's beyond our capacity - and/or the pressure to do it perfectly.

This often stems from deep nervous-system imprints and beliefs about what we must do in order to be valued, loved, and safe - and sometimes these patterns are inherited generationally.

Either way - when our actions consistently override our true capacity, desire, or needs - this creates friction and conflict within our system.

How I perceive this friction is as if it's an internal threat - "me" against me.

We know that stress is a common trigger to flares, but we rarely consider the hidden sources of that stress (e.g. beyond the day to day stressors that we all experience). This internal friction is a significant - and often overlooked - contributor.

Living through pressure is not living through a state of ease.

And when we spend more energy extending ourselves than receiving - more giving than replenishing - the system eventually reflects that imbalance. This is often what shows up as fatigue or anemia - regardless of rest or supplementation.

That's because the root isn't only physical - it's energetic. 

It lives in the beliefs and imprints that create:

1) A prioritization of giving (i.e. helping, responsibility, caring for others, "shoulds"), and

2) A resistance to receiving (i.e. support, rest, awareness of our own needs).

Giving itself isn't the issue - it's the balance and the energy from which we're giving.

This is a lesson I have been deeply schooled in over the last few years. What I see now is how much of my life didn't feel like ease (which was reflected in my body's state) - and how little I questioned that it could be different.

This is one of the core themes we explore inside ROOTED, my immersion for mothers navigating autoimmune dis-ease to uncover the energetic roots beneath their physical symptoms.

This is the insight and support that I wish I had years ago when I was experiencing symptoms and pain, searching for answers, but unsure how to truly listen to my body.

I hope that you find value within these reflections.

With love & deep belief in your healing,

Natalie